is this where I start the conversation?
HA! I see you follow me!
I follow you,too!
maybe we should tal-
wow this is the most accurate post of how I try to make friends
Did anyone else read this in Mulan’s “manly voice”?
when you wait for something to happen and it never does
My little brother got into outer space and stuff so my step-mom bought him a place mat with all the planets on it. When I first saw it, I was upset, because it was newer and so Pluto wasn’t labeled. I was about to say something when I noticed something…
Pluto is there.
The artist remembered Pluto.
The artist drew Pluto crying.
Those windows should be boarded up.
And the lights should be off
They wont make it
SHUT UP STOP ACTING LIKE YOU’RE SO SMART AND SUPERIOR ABOUT SOMETHING THAT WONT HAPPEN
you know what we call people that that attitude?
Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying…
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.
So, these are only a FEW of the tweets that were aimed towards me, for openly being a female with armpit hair. There are millions more that I may or may not post. But for now, let’s go ahead and review this here folks.
Does a dozen teenagers who have been brainwashed by our patriarchal, misogynistic society telling me that I’m a disgusting hairy ape hurt my feelings? Absolutely not. I’m obviously very proud to display my body and my personal choices that go against our cruel standards for women.
But what does make me sad, is that this is what we are teaching our youth. These are the real, raw beliefs of young people today in regards to women, and what they can and cannot do with their bodies.
They truly believe in their minds that it is ‘unacceptable’ and ‘disgusting’ for a woman to make the choice to not shave. What’s even more sad to me is that the people agreeing with this boy were ALL FEMALE. Is this kind of bias, this kind of internalized hatred for womens bodies & choices really what we want to continue to teach them? This is probably the first time they have seen a woman who doesn’t take a razor and shave off what naturally grows on her body, and they’re legitimately angry to the point where they can personally attack someone they don’t even know about their body. They are angry to the point where it’s almost as if they feel personally insulted that a girl does not shave. Let’s stop and think: why would they feel this angry about a personal choice that is so very insignificant? That has no effect on our health, hygiene or well being?
Think back to this the next time you hear yourself or someone else saying 'women are equal' or ‘women aren’t discriminated against.’Because this is what we are teaching our young women. We are teaching them that your body is not okay, it is not okay to go against what society defines as ‘beautiful.’ It is not okay to be open about who you are, what you choose to do with your body that makes you most comfortable. It is not okay to make a choice that goes against the rules that society has set for us. That you are ‘psycho,’ an ape, disgusting, & that your choices that fit your comfort are not okay. This is the world we have created for women.
"If it’s a religious thing then go for it but if you just do it by choice I’m gonna have to ask you to stop"
Two things this tells me:
- "Religious things" aren’t supposed to be choices. Never mind that literally everyone makes choices about how they relate to their religion and how they express that relationship all the time.
- This person is 100% comfortable straight up announcing that you’re not allowed to have a choice about this. If someone ELSE tells you not to shave, that’s okay. But as soon as you make a choice, it’s a problem.
The default medical model, especially in ads but also in research, is always a man. Unless they’re talking about weight loss. That’s the only time women get to see their own bodies used as default examples.