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"Honey, I’m leaving you for Poussey”
lesbians = yes
lesbians marketed towards men = NO
My Aunt is a violent abuser who literally just attacked my Mother shortly after my Aunt started yelling at me for just existing.
I’m too much of a wreck to make this wholly comprehensive right now, but if you follow me you’ll know that we were unable to find a place to live so we [my Mother and I] had to move in with my Grandmother [who has been letting my Aunt stay here for about 15 years???]
If you follow me you also know that my Aunt is a volatile, violent abuser who has attacked us our entire lives.
Well, about half an hour ago, she started yelling at me after I said that ‘You do realise I can hear you, right’ when she called me a ‘cunt’ as I left the room.
I told my Mother about this as I went back upstairs with the bagel I had been making for her and my Mother went downstairs to make her tea.
My Aunt proceeded to scream at my Mother and then physically attack her as evidenced by a little of the aftermath that I will link to in a gallery. For a short rundown: She shoved my Mother, grabbed her by her shoulders and scratched up her arms, and pulled out a small chunk of my Mother’s hair all while screaming.
Please donate whatever you can and/or share however you can with whomsoever you can. We need money for moving vans [remarkably expensive], 6 weeks deposit on a new place, first month’s utilities for the new place, and first month’s rent for the new place.
We need to leave.
—Things I can add on Tumblr include:
- I’m queer. I’m very very queer. This is an Orthodox household. You do the math.
- This is a very very Jewish Zionist household. My Mother and I are Anti-Zionist. You, again, do the math.
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White men can take nations but they can’t take a joke
This is a generalization.
case in point
It is a generalization, and it’s racist
"Black men can take welfare but they can’t take a joke" Look. Racism
"Blacks comprise 22 percent of the poor, but blacks only take in 14 percent of government benefits. Conversely, whites make up 42 percent of the poor , but take in a disproportionate 69 percent of government benefits." (x) (x)
^^ When they step out of line, hit they ass with a snapple fact.
IS THERE ANYTHING THAT ALLISON JANNEY CAN’T DO???
I’ve never been more emotional about any social media post in my entire life
UPDATE: guys Beth Broderick tweeted yesterday that this Salem is THE SAME SALEM!!! He’s 20 years old man!!!! 20!
That Salem is still kicking is all I care about.
When people complain about how accessibility features such as ramps, lifts, highlighting, image descriptions, scaled css, trigger warnings, epilepsy warnings, etc., makes things aesthetically ugly, they are actually revealing how the politics of what we consider beautiful have been centered around able-bodied, neurotypical people.
finished some more of those drawings from the other day :^)
look you can personally live by the philosophy ‘be nice to everyone’ but the fact of the matter is ‘being nice’ won’t solve institutionalized oppression, and that some people don’t want to be nice to their oppressors
When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:
"I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury."
“I realized one of the children was watching.”
“I was afraid someone would call the police.”
“I could kill her if I did that.”
“The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.”
And the most frequent response of all:
"Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”
The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.”
These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”
A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong.
I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!”
The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable….